Tuesday, May 3, 2016

What Does Your Momma Want?

Motherhood is one of the most difficult, stressful jobs in our society. As our mothers have served and ministered to us, we, in turn, want to honor them. You want to give them what they really need and want in life. But, what do women want? Albert Einstein once said, “Despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, I have yet to answer the great question…what do women want?”
If I were to have written an article on this subject when I was thirty, I would have entitled it “Five Things Every Woman Wants.” Ten years later, I might have called it “Five Helpful Clues to What Women Want.” Today, I might call it, “Feeble Hints for Fellow Strugglers.”
Scripture tells us there are several things we can bank on to answer the question, “What do women want?” Let me give you five:

  • A leader who will give her security. “For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.” Ephesians 5:23
Head simply means “a leader.” Women want a man they can rely on to follow God, so she can be at peace with following him. Many psychologists believe security is a number one issue with women. It’s been said that security is realized when we know a responsible person cares about us.
  • A love that makes her feel cherished. (Ephesians 5:25-29)  
Cherished means she feels more important than anything else. Men tend to be task-driven. We will do whatever it takes to “win” her. Once married, we often turn our attention to our careers. We want her to be proud of us and we feel this can best be achieved by accomplishments. Women, however, are more relationship-driven. They need our love more than they need our success.
  • A family who appreciates her. (1Peter 3:7)
Philosopher, William James said, “The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” If your mom or wife has placed her family first in her heart, then it only stands to reason that this is how she measures success and even her self-worth. When children take her for granted (especially grown children) it makes her feel unappreciated and unsuccessful. Appreciate her this Mother’s Day, but just as importantly, appreciate her every day.
  • Children who honor her. “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother.” Ephesians 6:1, 2
Honor means to add value to; to hold in high esteem. We honor and add value to someone when we affirm them. We can honor our mother by paying attention to her, showing gratitude toward her, taking care of her as she ages, and most of all, by following Christ. Nothing can comfort a mother’s heart more than knowing they will one day see their children in heaven.
  • A Savior who will satisfy her. Ephesians 3:17-19 
No husband, child, job, career, or friendship can ever really meet the needs of a woman. Women want and need what Jesus Christ alone can bring--only Jesus and a relationship with Him will truly satisfy her every need.
What do you think?


  1. Thank you Pastor Mercer for a great article!

  2. Love this! Spot on! And as women, the hard part is to remember that men have a whole different "wish list." Thanks, Pastor!

  3. I guess we will have to wait til Father's Day on that one, Jessica.

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